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Exercise With No Excuses

October 27, 2014 By Stephanie 13 Comments

27 Oct

*Edited 9/9/18

Growing up I was always one of the skinny ones. I could eat anything I wanted, as much as I wanted, and I never gained an ounce. For a while, I even wanted to gain weight because I felt I was too skinny and because of that did not have much of a figure.

When I was 19 I got married and within months I gained 15 pounds. Even though the weight gain still didn’t put me  “overweight” it was a huge difference for me. I felt bad about myself. I felt like it was a huge deal to my husband. Yet, I didn’t do anything about it. I would exercise sometimes, but I wasn’t used to the fact that I would actually need to work to get the extra weight to come off.  And, since I wasn’t actually “overweight” other women acted like I was crazy if I talked about wanting to lose a few pounds. It got easier and easier to feel less confident about my weight and to accept that it was normal to gain weight out of high school and after getting married and leave it at that.

Then came baby

Three days after our third wedding anniversary I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I had a rough start to my pregnancy to the point that my doctor had told me I most likely had miscarried. During an ultrasound the following afternoon to our shock there was a miraculous little heart beating on the screen. I was on bed rest for a week and then good to go for the rest of my pregnancy. But, even though my doctor said I was ok, I was too worried to try any kind of exercise for the rest of my pregnancy. I ended up gaining 40 pounds and had a 5 pound 14 ounce baby. There was a lot of weight left over.

During the year after my daughter was, born I felt awful about the way I looked. I knew I didn’t look as good to my husband either and I took all of the bad feelings I had about myself and put them on him. I just “knew” that he was thinking all the same things about me that I was (even though he wasn’t). So, I tried to make myself feel better by thinking that he should not be so shallow as to care about the extra weight. I mean c’mon, I had just had his baby.

Trying to lose weight

I finally got to the point that I joined a weight watchers group. Just watching what I ate a little helped the extra pregnancy weight to come off, but I still held onto those 15 pounds from pre-baby.

Eventually, I came to a point in my life where I realized that even though everyone in the world might be ok with me weighing those extra 15 pounds, I wasn’t ok with it. It was affecting my confidence and the way that I interacted with my husband. I felt bad about my body so I most certainly didn’t believe that he liked it. It all came down to the fact that I had to determine to make a change, no one could force me to do it.

If you look through the first part of my story you can see all the italicized excuses that I used to not have to put in the hard work that was necessary. It is so much easier to try to excuse our way out of making a change that would actually benefit our life then to just do the hard work required to make the change.

A little education

In January 2014 I passed the test to become a Certified Personal Trainer through NASM (National Academy of Sports Medicine). Other than my husband, this is the first time I have told anyone that. See, I don’t work as a personal trainer. I had different plans in January than I currently do. I never ended up putting what I learned to practice for a career, but I have applied a lot of what I learned to myself.

There is a huge problem in America with weight. The NASM textbook says, “At present 66% of Americans older than the age of 20 are overweight. Approximately 34% of Americans are obese, which equates to approximately 72 million Americans.” Don’t think you are out of it if you aren’t an American, it also says that all other industrialized countries have obesity as the fastest growing medical problem.

This is crazy if you stop and think about it. This is something that is purely a choice. (I know there are some extreme medical conditions that can relate to this, but for the majority of people that is not the case). We love to make excuses for ourselves and the things that we wish we could change about ourselves. Do any of these sound familiar to you?

“I’m too busy”

This is the most popular excuse for not exercising. A suggestion for this is to spend a week tracking all of your time within each day and how you choose to spend it. In most cases, this can help you to pinpoint the time in your day that is not being prioritized. Yes, it might be fun and relaxing to spend that extra 30 minutes watching TV, or checking Instagram, Facebook, or Pinterest, but I bet you would feel a whole lot better if you spent that time exercising.

“I’m not getting any results”

It’s so easy to gain weight and so hard to lose it. It can be extremely demotivating to spend a few weeks working out consistently and still not see the number on the scale change at all. I’ve been there, I know. This is why it is so important to set S.M.A.R.T. goals. That is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely. Set large goals for yourself and then set small goals to help you reach the large goal. It’s easy to say “I want to lose 30 pounds”, but how are you going to do that. Try setting a goal of spending 5 days a week exercising for 30 minutes each day.

And, the important thing is to track what you are doing and what progress you are seeing. Weigh yourself, take your measurements, and write them down. Also, record how many of each activity you are able to do or how long it takes you to walk a mile. It’s encouraging even when the scale isn’t changing to see that you are able to do 10 more sit-ups or 5 more burpees.

Take pictures every month. This is always encouraging to me. The before pictures are never fun, but weight tends to come off slowly and it’s hard to notice from day to day. Then the day comes when you take a picture and compare it to the before picture and think “Wow, my love handles are smaller and my butt is not so saggy!”

“I don’t have money to buy a gym membership or equipment.”

Nice try, not only are there a lot of inexpensive gym memberships or ways you could cut spending to afford it, but there are a lot of options for exercising at home without spending money. My husband and I enjoy a lot of the Beachbody workouts; P90X, Insanity, and T25. Yes, these do cost money, but I have found the investment to be well worth it because we rotate them and have been using P90X on and off for the past 4 years.

My sister and brother-in-law actually rented the P90X videos from their local library, free of charge. And, almost everyone has access to the internet now where you can find an incredible amount of different exercises you can do at home for free. One of my favorite places for free workouts is Fitness Blender.

“I’m not overweight” or “I am not as heavy as a lot of people”

This might not be something we say out loud, but more something we think. It is an internal excuse that we use. As a woman and a mother, it is easy to think “Well I look pretty good for having 3 kids”. When it really comes down to it though, I don’t want to feel like my husband thinks I look good “for having 3 kids”. I want him to think I look good, period. And, no matter what anyone else thinks, I have to think about what my weight does to me. When I have gained even a few pounds I start to lose a little confidence and it’s easy to not even notice until my husband touches my side and I slap his hand away because I am self-conscious about it. Stop comparing yourself to others and start looking at how to be your best.

“I am too tired.”

This one can go hand-in-hand with being “too busy”. Look at your schedule and see where you can cut a little bit out to make room for exercise. It is a proven fact that exercising helps to combat that tired feeling. The mornings when I get up and exercise right away, I have a lot more energy for the rest of the day then when I hit the snooze and don’t squeeze a workout in later.

“I don’t want to go alone”

It’s important to have support when you are making changes in your life. Often my husband and I will work out together, but not everyone has a workout partner. That’s ok. Even if you don’t “feel” like doing it by yourself, you can! And, there are tons of online support forums that you can be a part of. Or, find an accountability partner to keep you going.

“My kids get in the way”

I can attest to this. I exercise at home because I love the convenience of it (and the cheapness of it). But, sometimes with 3 little ones running around, it can be complicated. You can try your best to squeeze your workout in before they wake up or during nap time, but it doesn’t always happen.

I would love to find a workout video that shows the reality of having a child crawling under you like a bridge while you are in downward dog! Showing your children that exercise is important to you is a great example of teaching them to take care of themselves.

My kids got a copy of Denise Austin’s Fit Kids several years ago and we pop that in the DVD player every once in a while to get them moving too. They have a blast and sometimes we jump in and do the video with them. This is one area that you just do your best in and make do. Some days will be easy and others will be constantly stopping what you are doing to break up a hair pulling screaming match in the other room. Just give it your best!

“I don’t like to exercise”

A lot of people feel like this including me on a lot of days. The truth is, I don’t always enjoy exercising. Some days I would rather do just about anything else. But, I try to do it anyway because I know it’s good for me and a good example for my daughters. Sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do because it is the right thing to do. Our kids don’t like to pick up their toys, but we make them do it anyway because it’s the right thing to do.

There are so many benefits to exercise outside of all the “medical” benefits you get. Some of the psychological benefits include reduced stress, positive mood, improved sleep, and reduced anxiety and depression. There are tons of reasons to exercise and hundreds of excuses not to. It all comes down to making that choice, setting your goals, and then sticking with it.

Don’t get me wrong…

I am not at all trying to indicate that fitness, our looks, or outer-beauty (however you want to say it) are the most important thing. Because it’s not.  Much more important than physical health is your character and the way you behave as a person, but that shouldn’t be used as an excuse to neglect your health.

Everyone has different medical issues and it’s important to speak with a healthcare professional before jumping into your own program. If you have questions and wonder if you are exercising the right way, I would encourage you to make an appointment with a local trainer. I was surprised when I met with a trainer for the first time after years of exercising at home, how many things I was doing incorrectly by just a little bit. But, what a big difference it made when I did it the right way.

Don’t try to be perfect, just do your best! If you miss a day or two, don’t get discouraged and quit. Just jump back in the next day. And remember, when you make good choices, no matter how small, over an extended period of time, you will see great results!

How about you? Do you enjoy exercise? Do you have any other excuses that you struggle with? What’s your favorite exercise or fitness tip?

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  1. Kaylene Yoder says

    October 27, 2014 at 9:11 pm

    Oh! I’m so guilty of this! Thank you for the reminders…I’ve been needing some motivation!

    Reply
    • Stephanie says

      October 28, 2014 at 2:29 am

      I can get unmotivated so easily, just writing this helped kick me in the butt a little!

      Reply
  2. Kimberlee says

    October 28, 2014 at 12:58 am

    This is a great post – enjoyed reading it. I actually don’t mind exercising 5 days per week but I have made it a habit to do this for the past 8 or 10 years. I alternate my workouts so I don’t get bored and have always worked out at home on my own. My kids are older now but when they were younger I worked out at 8 or 9pm at night after they went to bed – even though sometimes I was very tired. Now I get up before everyone and workout at 6:30 or 7am most days except Sunday and lately on Tues. since I am doing a bible study and have to leave early in the morning. I think once you make working out a habit it is part of who you are – I read Tony Horton’s book The Big Picture and there is a lot of great info in there about exercising as a way of life and having a good attitude and outlook on everything. PopSugar also has lots of great workout videos you can access for free.

    Reply
    • Stephanie says

      October 28, 2014 at 2:30 am

      Thank you! I will have to check out Tony Horton’s book, it sounds like a good read. Thanks for the tips on the resources!

      Reply
  3. Beth Crowdus @Maturista says

    October 28, 2014 at 2:10 am

    Wow…you sound a lot like me, except you are much younger! I was skinny growing up, gained weight after my 2nd son, and a few years back was told by a doctor to lose a bit of weight (13 pounds down thanks to my husband). Now at almost 50, I must keep active since my metabolism has slowed. Thanks for the motivational reminder Stephanie!

    Reply
    • Stephanie says

      October 28, 2014 at 2:43 am

      Great job Beth and thank you for sharing!

      Reply
  4. Karissa Barber // The Acting Mom says

    October 29, 2014 at 1:00 pm

    Ouch. This one hit home BIG TIME. I was like you, always thin without trying. 4 kids later, I have more weight on my than I should and every excuse that you listed above. Thanks for speaking truthfully and now I need to get up, stop the excuses and get exercising! Thanks! Visiting from Time Warp Wife.

    Reply
    • Stephanie says

      October 30, 2014 at 1:53 am

      Thanks for visiting Karissa!

      Reply
  5. normaleverydaylife says

    October 29, 2014 at 8:24 pm

    The only kind of exercising I don’t mind doing is walking. Weights are torture, but I make myself do them twice a week. I know that’s probably not enough, but I can’t get mentally up to three! 🙂 Thanks for sharing with Motivational Monday.

    Reply
    • Stephanie says

      October 30, 2014 at 1:54 am

      I need to make more time to do walking. Every time I motivate myself to get outside and exercise winter is on the way so it isn’t long before our road is covered in snow and ice and I head back indoors for several months 🙂

      Reply
  6. Serena @ Simple Holistic Girl says

    January 15, 2015 at 10:31 pm

    This is so me. Small all my life until I had my second child. However, even when I gained weight people still said how I’m so small. I am also a personal trainer, but being human get caught up in the excuses, too. With a busy schedule and three kids my best time to work out is like 5:30am, except on weekends, but sometimes I can’t bring myself to do it. As long as I can do that time at least twice during the week and use the weekend to workout too that’s good enough for me. I learned you can’t beat yourself up. #turnituptuesday

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    • Stephanie says

      January 19, 2015 at 6:30 pm

      I’m with you on the 5:30 am thing! I have been working from the start of this year to get myself up at that time and get in my quiet time and exercise before the kids are up, but some days it seems TOO early!

      Reply
  7. Linda H says

    February 22, 2020 at 11:09 am

    Good quality writing and informative. and i got quite a few tips that i should use. Thanks for this.

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Today has been a terrible, horrible, no good, very
Today has been a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. 

Some days are like that.

And sometimes those days are our fault.

My day was caused by a toxic client. As much as I would like to blame her, I take responsibility because I knew from the beginning that I never should have worked with her.

When we go down paths we shouldn't go down, we usually have painful consequences.

Several valuable lessons were learned today and I would like to share them so I don't have to relearn them again in the future and maybe I can spare you some future pain too.

1. Be careful when doing business with people whose values don't align with yours

2. When you feel you should get out of a situation, do not delay

3. Never do any type of work that leaves you feeling your values were compromised

4. Toxic people can play nice... for awhile... But their true colors will always show through in the end

5. Trust your instincts

6. When you turn a situation over to God, it doesn't mean the way out will be pain free

And finally remember, some days feel like terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days, but it doesn't have to stay like that.

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I've been pondering this a lot in the past week.

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But as I help people share this message that "therapy is for everyone," I'm starting to wonder if we are spreading the wrong message.

Yes therapy can be for everyone. And there are some people who absolutely need the support and guidance of mental health professionals. But does everyone actually need therapy to be mentally well? 

That seems to be the trend we have taken as society.

Therapy can play an important role in helping people heal and live healthy, but are we becoming too dependent on believing we ALL need therapy? Have we lost the ability to process through difficult situations on our own or with our own support system?

I'm not sure. I'm still pondering. But I would love to hear your thoughts.


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We see what we look for.

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I was up early this morning and decided to sit outside and enjoy the cooler air and I had the opportunity to watch an incredible sunrise from this small little section.

It reminded me that we often get what we look for in life. If you want to see all the bad, you will. If you look for the good, you can find it. And just because we don't see good things happening at every moment (like I don't usually see the sunrises) doesn't mean they aren't still happening all around us.

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I came across this incredible reminder in an email today from @lysaterkeurst and @proverbs31ministires.

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Sometimes we need to say difficult things to people, but we can choose to do it out of love instead of frustration and anger.

So, I cannot control the actions of others or many details of this specific situation, but I can control my words in the midst of it, and I can control how much power I allow the situation to have over my life.

Sharing in case my failure can help anyone else do better.

#workinprogress #stilllearning


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The power of our minds and the way we choose to think is amazing!

A couple weeks ago on vacation, we had the chance to hold a baby alligator. There were grown people on the boat who were terrified to sit next to a person holding the alligator. Then there were those, like Macy, who took advantage of a new opportunity and gave it a go.

If we really think about it, this is exactly what happens in life too. Some people are too afraid to take a risk and try something new when the opportunity comes and others are willing to give it a try. 

Some are afraid to let their friends and family try a new adventure because their own fear is so strong so they discourage them from doing the thing even if that person really wants to try it.

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Have you ever thought about how a click of a camera button has the ability to capture a moment in time? Pretty amazing!

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Can you relate?  
 
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Being easily offended and staying offended and angry gives things outside of your control power over you, your day, and your attitude.

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Over the years, my husband and I have learned to ask for things we want. We asked for work from a church without knowing if they would be interested. We asked to barter handyman services and home repair in exchange for lower rent. 

We've asked for some weird things that don't seem like they should have worked out, but they did. And we would have never had those opportunities if we hadn't been willing to ask for them.

Are there questions you've been avoiding asking out of fear?

This.

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This.

It's so easy to avoid growth and change because it's uncomfortable and painful. But so many times the life we want is on the other side.

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What if you don't wait to get started until everything is perfect? What would that look like? 
 
I'm giving you a sneak peek into what my incredible workspace looks like today 😜 
 
Today I have a few calls so I'm working with my messy bed as my desk so I can have a quiet space. Sometimes I work from my kitchen counter. My family of 5 lives in a small rental house right now. I don't have any space for an office, but I'm running a growing business by working like this. 
 
If I had waited to get started until I "knew everything" or had the perfect setup, I would have wasted the last 5 years. If I had waited until I "knew just a little more" or felt a "little more ready", I still wouldn't be doing anything. Even after 5 years, I still have LOTS to learn but I'm so much further along because I took the step of getting started.
 
It sucks to hear, but you have to get started before you're "ready". That's just the way it works. Don't let your circumstances get in your way. And - this might sound tough but - stop making excuses. Look for a way to make it work as best you can right now. 
 
 
 
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This quote rings so true to me. A little over 4 ye
This quote rings so true to me. A little over 4 years ago, I had such little confidence. I let fear control so much of what I did.

I was working to grow my freelance business and almost skipped an opportunity to take on work because the potential client wanted to schedule a phone call instead of just working through emails and messages. I broke out in hives just having to talk on the phone.

I couldn't handle ordering a pizza because I was too nervous about not knowing what to say. I overthought everything.

Fear controlled what I did and didn't do. It caused me to struggle in my thoughts and postponed my ability to go after the things I really wanted to accomplish.

Learning to overcome my fears took a lot of time. But slowly, I started to make progress. They were little changes at a time. I didn't even notice the growth as it happened. 

But then one day, that same client pointed out to me how much more confidence I had. And then another client mentioned how much I had grown in my confidence and ability to share my thoughts and opinions.

It ended up impacting every area of my life. 

But don't get me wrong, some days are still a struggle. Sometimes I still get hives when I have to talk on the phone or do a zoom call with someone I don't know, but not every time.

If you struggle with fear and confidence, know that you can improve and grow in this area. It doesn't have to be how you remain for the rest of your life. And so much of what you want is on the other side of pushing past that fear.

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Isn't it so easy to be happy and positive when you
Isn't it so easy to be happy and positive when you're on vacation? This picture is from over the summer when we did a mini vacation. It's easy when you get out of the routines of everyday life to start to think outside of the box and see new opportunities. 
 
But then we get back home. Clients need my attention. The house needs to be cleaned and dinner needs to be cooked. The kids have activities. And before I know it, I've fallen right back into going through the motions instead of really living each day. 
 
Here's your reminder for the day. I know it's Monday and it's easy to drag through the day. But choose to get outside of your comfort zone. Choose to look at things in a new way. Choose to start building the life you want to live, even if it's one tiny decision at a time. 
 
#mondaymotivation

Don't wait for the fear to go away. It's not going
Don't wait for the fear to go away. It's not going to. Choose courage and push past it and just watch as your confidence starts to build.


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